Divorce
and Life Coaching FAQ
1.
What exactly is coaching?
2.
Who becomes a coaching client and what do they work on?
3.
What is the Coaching process?
4. What are the benefits of coaching?
5. What
can I expect from you as my coach?
6. What are the costs?
1.
What exactly is coaching?
Coaching
is a new approach to personal growth. A coach helps you find the
clarity and direction in your life and supports you in a non-judgmental
way to take actions needed to reach your desires.
Coaching
is unlike counseling or psychotherapy in that your coach assumes
that you are a whole, healthy, resourceful individual. A Coach does
not analyze you or diagnose you. The focus is the present and future,
not the past. At first, your coach may hold you bigger than you
may hold yourself, until you are comfortable with the knowledge
that all answers are within you.
It
is unlike consulting, in that your Coach doesn't supply you with
answers and solutions. Coaches do not give you advice on how to
live your life. A Coach believes that the answers lie within you
and the coach assists you in discovering what they are.
In
a coaching relationship, the Coach is a partner and the entire focus
is on you, on your choices, and on finding the joy and passion in
your life. The coach helps you "stay the course" on your individual
path. Coaching deals with you as a whole person, with all aspects
of your life. Whatever the changes you choose, your Coach is there
100% for you.
There
is no other relationship quite like the coach/client relationship.
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2.
Who becomes a coaching client and what do they work on?
The short answer is that the choice is limitless. Many successful
CEOs and entrepreneurs have coaches. Some people have a short-term
specific goal, such as to lose weight, write a business plan, or
to start a new business.
I
specialize in helping people through difficult transitions. This
may be a divorce, a separation, dealing with the teen years, children
leaving home, a new career, the loss of a job, starting a business,
dealing with a major illness, the death of a loved one, finding
a new partner, dealing with a second marriage or incorporating a
new spouse and parent for your children into your life.
I
also love helping clients remove clutter and things that drain them
from their lives. My coaching clients transcend their current situation
and once again, find joy and passion in their lives.
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3. What is the Coaching process?
One of the wonderful things about coaching is that it can all be
done by telephone. There is an initial 2-3 hour intake process.
Then, we 'meet' once a week, three to four weeks per month, for
one-half hour. There is typically a 3 month initial commitment.
The exact coaching schedule varies with each client, as it is geared
to meet your needs.
As
your coach, I listen to you, without judgment, in a safe and confidential
relationship. Together, we discover your inner values, what makes
you - YOU. I ask you powerful questions that help reveal those answers.
As Coach, I hold you BIG…knowing you can live your life according
to your inner values, rather than according to all those "shoulds"
placed upon you. Some people need to gear up and take action, others
need to slow down and just "be".
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4. What are the benefits of coaching?
Balance. Harmony with life. Living life 'on purpose'. Joy. Passion.
Integrity. Peace within. A feeling of connectedness. Oh, and did
I say Balance?
Here
is an example from my own coaching experience: I was really frustrated
arguing with my children every night at bedtime. I felt 100% sure
that they were doing this to disrespect me.
My
coach asked, "What is another perspective?"
I answered: "They are wound up and really not tired".
She asked, "What is another perspective?"
I answered: "That they are testing their boundaries".
She asked, "What is another perspective?"
I answered: "That they feel they are asserting their individual
rights".
She asked, "What is another perspective?
I answered: "They want to spend more time with me".
Once
we see that there are other perspectives, we are free to choose
and to hold a different perspective! For parents who have dealt
with this issue, you can clearly see how powerful this is. If I
choose to believe that "'my children just want to spend more
time with me", rather than, "they are disrespecting me",
I can lovingly come up with a solution to make bedtime easier.
As
a coach, I can help you brainstorm, plan and stick to your plan.
If you choose, you can be held accountable in a strong and loving
way. Then we celebrate your success!
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5.
What can I expect from you as my coach?
As a coach, I bring to my practice the qualities I have given my
clients over the past 15 years as an Attorney and Mediator:
- Clarity
that this is YOUR LIFE!
I am here to serve you to reach your goals, to feel balanced,
to discover your values and to live your life authentically, in
alignment with those values.
- Compassion:
I care deeply about you.
- Unconditional
support:
I am 100% here for you. This is a safe, nonjudgmental partnership.
- Different
perspectives:
I
tell people that the number one attribute I gained from coaching
and have incorporated in my life is the ability to see different
perspectives.
- Humor!
It is extremely important to be able to laugh and enjoy the process.
- Life
experience:
I have had a varied and fulfilling life. Finding balance was a
great feat for me. Coaching really helped me in this area.
- Removing
barriers:
I love brainstorming with clients about what is blocking them
from living a fulfilling life. Once you know what these blocks
are, you remove them one by one, revealing your true, essential
self.
- Focusing
on what you want:
Creating an "Absolute YES" list and then having my support
as your coach while you change how you respond to requests for
your time.
- Common
sense:
I always felt that as an attorney I was able to see the whole
picture. I help you to accept that what is happening in your life
is happening for a reason. What is most important is how you respond
to these life events.
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6. What are the costs?
Coaching is the most dynamic and quickest way to see real results.
Please go to Divorce Programs
for more information on programs and costs.
Dare
to Transcend through your divorce
with Lori Rubenstein as your Divorce Coach
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