Divorce
Mediation
There
was a time when Divorce Mediation was an alternative way to do divorce.
Now it seems that more and more people are clear that they do not
want to give away their retirement or their children's college fund
to attorneys to battle it out in court, where everyone loses.
There
is something very distasteful about giving your power away to a
third party (the judge) to make a decision that is very personal
to you and your family. I was part of that legal system for 18 years,
and I can guarantee you it is no place for a family who wants to
remain healthy.
I
want you to look at this picture:
I
put this picture here because I want you to see that I walk my talk.
What you see might not be clear to you, but this is a picture
of me, my present husband, my son and both my ex-husbands playing
a board game during the weekend of my daughter's high school graduation,
13 years after my divorce from her father!
Let
me make this clear. BOTH my ex-husbands flew in from other states
and stayed with me to celebrate our daughter's graduation. This
is what I want for you.
Mediation with me is the first step to you being able to effectively
co-parent after your divorce. If you have children, I look at
it as my job to make sure that:
you and your family are able to communicate afterwards
you successfully
to co-parent with love and respect
you are
able to appreciate one another's boundaries
you are
able to forgive one another and let go of the victim and blame
game
you are
both financially stable and no one is suffering
your
children are well taken care of at both homes
while
you may not be friends, you remain united in parenthood and are
able to present a united front for your children.
Mediation
with me is different from mediation with other professionals, and
here is why. In addition to me walking my talk, you get 18 years
of my attorney and mediation experience and my 10 years relationship
coaching experience. I am not only taking care of your legal interests
- I am taking care of your family's future interests. You walk away
from mediation with your held high, knowing YOU made the best possible
situation for the future. It matters to me that there are NO
losers and that your children grow up as well-balanced as possible.
I
know, you are not divorcing your children. But children do not see
it that way. I know this firsthand because I was also a child of
divorce. I can be a voice for the children in your mediation/divorce.
My tag line for my mediation business has always been, "From Conflict
to Creative Solutions" and I pride myself on living up to that motto.
Children are not necessarily destroyed by a divorce, but they do
have significant problems if their parents keep the fight going.
Stop fighting! I can help you with this.
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“Thank
you so much for coaching my ex and I through our divorce!
We knew that it was the right thing to do but after 25 years
of marriage we had so much emotional baggage between us, communication
was at best, strained.
"Your
straight forward, calm approach and no nonsense style of conflict
resolution was what we needed! We wanted to be FAIR to each
other and feel that we BOTH are taken care of as we move into
our "pre-retirement" years. You helped us accomplish that,
and kept us from spinning our wheels, wasting time, and creating
more stress.
"Thank
you so much!!! I am so glad we could accomplish ALL this without
the high cost of an attorney, sacrificing NONE of the professionalism
and successful results for us both. You are awesome and I
would recommend you to anyone seeking a peaceful, loving and
fair resolution to their circumstances.”
Susan
Rivera, Cottonwood, AZ
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As
I said earlier, I do not only help you resolve the financial, custodial,
visitation, housing, and property distribution issues. As a coach
I work with each of you individually to deal with the outstanding
issues that prevent you from reaching the goals I stated above.
That is my promise to you and your children.
How
do we mediate? Even if you live long distance, we can do this
by telephone and e-mail. Once an agreement is reached, I will send
you what I call a Memorandum of Understanding. You will bring this
to a collaborative family law attorney in your state who will make
sure all your needs are met according to your state law and one
of them will draw up the agreement and it will be filed with the
court. NO court battle, NO positioning, NO trying to manipulate
or control the other party and NO giving away ALL your money to
attorneys.
The
average cost of a contested divorce in the US seems to be $20,000.
Average attorney fees are $275 per hour for each party. In a
divorce, together you are spending $550 per hour to argue rather
than resolve.
Because
every mediation is different, I cannot give you a total mediation
fee. However, if you fill
out this form and return it to me, I can give you a very
rough estimate of the costs. I charge $200 per hour for the mediation
work, ultimately saving you thousands of dollars in the long run.
Every person going through mediation will receive my workbook, Transcending
Divorce: A Guide to Personal Growth and Transformation.
What
my clients appreciate about my mediation style is that I am very
straight forward about whether someone's expectations are in alignment
with reality. I help each couple project how certain decisions will
affect their family in the future.
It
is my belief that mediation attracts people who are ready to stop
blaming the other spouse and are ready to make intelligent, reasonable
decisions to create a win-win solution to their divorce. If this
is you, click here to fill
out your mediation inquiry form.
Dare
to Transcend through your divorce
with Lori Rubenstein as your Divorce Coach
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